How Can I Handle My Ex Trying to Turn My Child Against Me?

Divorce can be an incredibly challenging process, often accompanied by elevated stress levels and, in some circumstances, abusive dynamics. During this emotionally turbulent time, one parent may resort to manipulative tactics aimed at turning their child against the other parent. This harmful behavior is referred to as parental alienation. It may manifest through various means, such as influencing the child’s thoughts and feelings, making negative comments about the other parent, or limiting contact between the child and the targeted parent. If you believe your ex is behaving this way, getting legal assistance right away is important.

Addressing Parental Alienation

Although it can be particularly difficult to establish evidence of parental alienation in a court setting—primarily because it is not formally recognized as a distinct mental health syndrome—there are proactive measures you can take to address and mitigate its impact. This may include the following:

Custody Evaluation

A custody evaluation is a valuable tool for addressing parental alienation in custody disputes. Conducted by a licensed social worker or qualified mental health professional specializing in family dynamics, the evaluator observes and assesses interactions between parents and children, noting behavioral patterns, communication styles, and emotional responses. The evaluation typically includes structured interviews with both parents, individual child assessments, and observations in various settings. Relevant documents such as custody agreements and school attendance records may also be reviewed. After this evaluation, the professional submits a detailed report and recommendations to the Maryland court regarding custody arrangements, visitation schedules, and interventions to support the parent-child relationship. 

Mediation and Parent Coordination

Mediation and parent coordination are valuable tools for helping children build meaningful relationships with their alienated parents. High-conflict divorces often hinder effective communication, but mediation with an experienced Maryland family law lawyer may be able to provide a supportive environment for open dialogue, focusing on critical issues of alienation. 

During this process, a neutral third party guides the discussions over several sessions, promoting understanding and compromise so ex-spouses can reach mutually beneficial resolutions without court intervention. Parents also create a parenting plan that outlines their co-parenting strategy, which serves as a reference for resolving future disagreements. 

Additionally, in parent coordination, a specially trained facilitator supports parents in enhancing their co-parenting efforts. This includes managing the parenting plan, streamlining communication, and efficiently resolving conflicts. 

Modifications of Custody

When parental alienation occurs after a divorce, especially following the establishment of custody orders, seeking a custody modification can be a viable option. This process requires a detailed examination of the original custody agreement and proof that the alienating parent is violating the current order. However, to substantiate this claim, supporting evidence must be collected, including records of missed visitations without valid reasons and any communications that indicate efforts to weaken the bond between the child and the alienated parent. 

The primary objective of modifying the custody order is to provide the alienated parent an opportunity to reconnect with their child and mend any strained relationships. Maryland courts usually endorse an active parent’s desire to participate in their child’s life, reflecting a commitment to the child’s emotional and psychological well-being. In practice, Maryland courts emphasize the child’s best interests, often acknowledging that maintaining connections with both parents is vital for the child’s overall development stability. 

Contact Rice Law To Learn More

If you are worried that your ex is trying to turn your child against you, contact Rice Law today. Our experienced Maryland family law attorneys can review your legal options and help ensure that your children can have the ongoing relationship with you that you deserve.